Perfect (P) Relationship

One great tip I want to share to add a boost your romantic relationship is the practice of giving inanimate objects a name and a personality. This practice is very helpful for people who have challenges carrying on a romantic conversation. It gives you “someone” to talk about in a romantic and sometimes humorous way. I refer to them as my “friends”.

For example, a woman’s breasts can be referred to as “the twins”. You could even give each them a name. This way when you want to talk romantic you can ask “How are the twins doing? You know I really miss them. Haven’t seen them in a while. I think I need to spend some time with them. ” etc.. This is a lot easier than talking directly about her breasts and it’s a lot more romantic. The same can be done for other parts of the anatomy (both yours and hers) and it can be limited only by your imagination and boldness. I have a few names that I use all the time and when I mention them my wife immediately knows I’m talking romantic and she responds accordingly.

Guys, there’s nothing wrong with coming up with your own names for parts of your anatomy that need to be addressed. It’s quite easy to refer to “Mike”, “Keith”, or “Fred” and have your partner know exactly who your talking about. If you tell her that Mike says hello and that he misses her. I’m sure she’ll get the message.

Again, it’s up to you to use your imagination and creativity to identify these persons or friends and their individual characteristics and more importantly to stay in touch with them. Don’t go too long without asking about them and giving them some attention. A few of my friends need a lot of attention! I’ll leave the rest to your imagination.

I found this interesting statistic that “87 percent of all people fail not because of capability but because of personality. ” People usually don’t fail because they can’t do the job, but because they can’t get along with other people.

If you work with people, you must have or seek to develop the ability to interact positively with them. Can you talk to people easily? Do you listen to them? Do you have a sense of humor and the ability to laugh at yourself without being sensitive or defensive? Do you enjoy people and working with them? Are you warm and approachable?

In order to be successful in a group or to lead a group you must have certain relational essentials. First, you must respect your co-workers. They will not only absorb your respect but also reflect it back to you. You also must provide open and honest 2-way conversation on all issues.  Open communication establishes an atmosphere of trust which is essential if the group of people is to function as a team.

Some people have a great deal of insecurity and are, therefore, fearful of trusting those with whom they work. This person looks at others with a suspicious mind  dwelling on all possible underlying motives. Is the other person out to take my position? Determine if your fears are real or not. If they are not, despel hem and begin to trust people.

People can be hurt in one of two ways. They can be non-trusting and keep everyone at a distance, never sharing or being open with them. Though your feelings may not be hurt because you won’t allow anyone to get close to you, you will be hurt in other ways because no one will ever extend themselves to help you. Yours will be a lonely trip with no one to share the joys of your success.

On the other hand,  people can choose to be open and transparent and chance the possibility of being hurt by someone that takes advantage of your trust.  This is a risk worth taking. I would hate to think of the rich, deep and rewarding friendships that would never have developed had I not taken the risk to trust people.  Remember, people who prefer to “play it safe” will never know the thrill of victory. To win a victory, and succeed, one must risk failure.