Perfect (P) Relationship

There are many things that cause men to leave their women. The reasons can be grouped into two categories based on the kind of woman you are.

So what kind of woman are you?

1. Are you the kind of woman who never sees herself as the cause of her relationship problems? Do you feel your doing everything right — and if anything is wrong in the relationship, you assume the guy has a problem? Or…

2. Are you the kind of woman who thinks that if her man loses interest in her, it’s somehow her fault? Do you think you must have done or said something that turned him off — and you contemplate endlessly (sometimes obsessively) about what you could have done wrong?

The truth is that the majority of women fall into the second category. They focus on the recent period of their relationship, trying to figure out exactly what they’ve done wrong to cause their man to leave them.

Here’s one thing that comes as a surprise to most women:

“The reason a man leaves a relationship seldom has to do with a single thing that a woman said or did.” In fact, more often, the reason has very little to do with the woman.

More than likely, the man is not necessarily responding to you, but rather to his own inner needs, insecurities, conflicts, fears and fantasies. However, it’s also very likely that you have made mistakes which ultimately contributed to the environment that caused your man to leave.

Here are 3 tips for women about mistakes they should definitely want to avoid:

First Tip:
You cannot flood a man’s heart with emotions to fulfill his emotional needs the way you can a woman’s. Men don’t flow as well in the emotional realm as women do.

Second Tip:
Don’t try to change or fix your man. If you manage to make him change in order to please you — or “for the sake of the relationship” — the change is not likely to last. The trick is to make him think it was his idea (because a man doesn’t like to feel that the woman’s in charge). And you can do this by identifying his own reasons for wanting to change.

Third Tip:

Don’t bring unnecessary “drama” into the relationship. Men just want to feel good. They want to be around a woman that makes them feel good about themselves and the world — and a woman who feels good about life in general. Keeping the drama down will make a difference in whether he’ll decide to spend any more of his time and energy on you and your relationship. So save the drama for your mama!