Perfect (P) Relationship

Relationships fail every day. It could be between spouses, lovers, siblings, friends or even co-workers. Although its a common occurrence, it often appears as a mystery to many. They have no idea what went wrong and no idea how to prevent it from happening again. They go through the endless cycle of repeated disappointment and frustration. Girlfriend problems, boyfriend problems, marriage problems, and general relationship issues all fall into the same category. What usually happens when we find ourselves in a failing relationship is we blame our partner or the other person. But we must come to the realization that its not the fault of our partner if we are unhappy or if the relationship is failing. Its not their job to make you happy anyway. Our unhappiness is a result of the one missing ingredient that is essential for genuine happiness. That missing ingredient is REAL LOVE.

Real Love is unconditionally caring about the happiness of another person.

Its the kind of love that make our unhappiness disappear and makes our relationships become natural and effortless. This real love is evidenced by caring for someone and their happiness without any thought for what we might get out of it for ourselves. When we give real love, we’re not disappointed, hurt, or angry, when people are thoughtless and inconsiderate of you and give you no gratitude in return. In addition, real love does not get disappointed or angry when they make foolish mistakes or when they don’t do what we want them to do.

We all have a deep yearning to feel connected to someone and it is said one of the greatest fear for a human being is the fear of being unloved and alone. When someone shows genuine concern about your happiness we do feel that connection to the other person. We feel included in his or her life and we no longer feel alone. Each moment we spend in the atmosphere of real love creates a powerful bond that fills us will a genuine and lasting happiness that only real love can give. On the contrary in an atmosphere of skepticism and fear you cannot experience happiness no matter how hard you try.

Experiencing real love take time and patience. Its a journey that thousands of people have successfully taken and found genuine happiness and lasting, fulfilling relationships. With real love, nothing else matters; without it, nothing else is enough.

Healthy relationships can sometimes be difficult to maintain when they are filled with drama, conflict, negativity and broken trust. In fact many of the relationship issues experienced by well intentioned partners are a result of one or more of these four factors.

So, you may ask “What does it take to build and build and maintain a healthy relationship?” Well my answer is one that you will probably not like too much because it is this: It depends!

It has been shown that people in long-term, satisfying relationships have the same tendencies to do the following:

Take it Slow, but Consistent - Relationships work the best when people go slow and take their time getting to know each other and are not pressured by their partner to take steps they may not be ready for. Whirlwind romances however exciting usually end in disaster. It also helps to be consistently supportive and encouraging. Inconsistent behavior causes misunderstandings and uncertainty.

Keep Upbeat, Stay Positive - Relationships work the best when both partners express a positive and upbeat attitude towards each other. Genuine displays of happiness and affection go a long way when trying to make a relationship work. By contrast, relationships usually fail when negativity, indifference, and anger become the norm. Just a little negativity can create a lot of problems and issues in a good relationship. It’s not that people shouldn’t express negative feelings but that there are appropriate ways of dealing with negative feelings that work lead to negativity.

Approach Problems As A Team - Couples feel closer and are more satisfied with their relationships when they approach problems and difficulties as a team. Couples who take an US versus the PROBLEM, rather than a YOU versus ME approach to conflict are always much happier in the long run.

Don’t Take People For Granted - Over time, its easy for couples to take each other for granted. At the start of a relationship people appreciate all the things that their partners do for them. However, as time goes on, people tend to expect more, but acknowledge and appreciate less. A partner’s contributions can often be overlooked as normal and routine. To keep a relationship happy and healthy it is important to show appreciation on a consistent basis.

Celebrate Differences - Relationships work the best when partners have a lot in common, but respect and appreciate the differences that do exist. It helps to appreciate and even celebrate someone for who they are and not try to change them or change how they behave.

Be Humble and Approachable - People should feel free to talk with a romantic partner. Sharing what is going on in one’s life and how one feels about issues is important. But, being open with a partner is not always easy because it sometimes requires the partner to tell the truth and to LISTEN to things that may be difficult to hear. Listening for the sole purpose of UNDERSTANDING, not control, evaluation, or judgment is critical to having an open and satisfying relationship.

Express Commitment - Relationships work the best when partners reassure each other of their love and commitment. It never hurts to tell a spouse that you love him or her and that you will always be there. But it’s always good to show them. Make sure that you express your commitment in more than just words but in deeds and acts. Talk is cheap but actions speak much louder than words. Say it then haul off and do it!

So your on a date and you think the time has come to make the big move. Yes, the first kiss! What do you do and how do you approach it?  Well first you need to relax because we have just what you need. It doesn’t matter if it’s your first kiss or you are a veteran these dating tips for a perfect kiss can turn you into an amazing kisser. So keep reading below and learn all the steps to having that perfect kiss.

The Perfect Kiss

Tip 1, Remember the beauty of a kiss is in the approach. So look deeply into your lovers eyes and slowly move your lips closer and closer until you make contact. Then as soon as your lips touch close your eyes.

Tip 2, The most affectionate kiss begins with a light peck, then a head tilt and a passionate kiss. This is a good approach on the first kiss because if your partner is not ready you will know from the peck and save yourself the embarrassment of attempting the passionate kiss.

Tip 3, Relax your lips to keep a nice soft gentle pressure between you and your partner. Tense lips are a sign of rejection so keep your lips relaxed and always be sensitive to your partners lips.  If they are tight and tense it is probably a sign that they are not ready.

Tip 4, Keep yours lips moist, no one likes a dry  or overly wet kiss.

Tip 5, Keep your breath fresh. Avoid unpleasant and distracting odors. Keeping your breath pleasant means no garlic or curry saturated foods. Even if your partner is eating these types of breath-killers, don’t  do it

Tip 6, If french kissing is your thing then remember not to get carried away with it.  Passionate kissing involves probing for a positive response. Start with simple movement and see the response. If the response is favorable linger there for a moment before you change to something else. The beauty of the kiss is the interaction between to two of you. That’s what makes the kiss.

Tip 7, if you are a guy you need to shave if you want to have a perfect kiss. Nothing is more distracting to a woman than a scruffy face, which completely kills the mood for a woman.

Tip 8, If you are a girl with long hair make sure you hair doesn’t get in the way. That can be pretty distracting for a guy.

Tip 9, After every kiss MAKE SURE YOU SMILE. No matter how good or bad it was if you expect to have another chance at it you have got to smile. Let her know you enjoyed it and don’t let them have to ask you.

Tip 10, When you do finally pull away, look your partner in the eyes again. A smile, an embrace, or a whisper letting them know that you enjoyed it are a nice way to end a kiss.

I hope these tips will prove to be invaluable. Check back regularly for more articles and extra advice. Good Luck!